I read about this guy

I read about this is the paper who had a car accident... someone ran up his rear end. He said that his car was insured, which means he had accident insurance. He broke some bones and is apparently still recovering. He wrote that as a result of the accident he lost his car, home, job, and wife plus he was still revovering from the accident. The world seems to be full of stories like this and I don't really get it. I know he had an accident, but why would that make his wife leave him? Also, if he was insured, why did he lose his house? And the government makes sure you don't lose your job too. I hear heaps of stories like this. I also hear heaps of TAC insurance horror stories. People lose a lot when they are affected by an accidnt and by comparison we are doing OK, althoug maybe its early days yet?

Nin has damaged her arm and it hasn't healed as quickly as it should, but she didn't re-break it. No Tae Kwondo for another term for sure. She was disappointed but is OK.

Sandy was assessed by the nueropsychologist, she will report to us in a fortnight or so. In the meantime she emphasised two things, one is he is not to be tired out, which may affect how much work he can do. The second thing is that I am correct and he has some health issues to see to as a result of the trauma too. I will be assessed in a couple of weeks.

I gave up painkillers this weekend. They are addictive and I have been on them for too long already. Since I do without them during the day, I decided to do without them at night too. My tummy feels funny.. sort of icey and firey like when I gave up tobacco. I missed heaps of sleep over the past 2 nights since I stopped taking them. I have a headache today as well. I figure it will take a week at most to get them out of my system (fingers crossed). I can't tell any doctor because by law, they have to tell the insurer and fail or succeed, its my business, not my insurers.

We went away and spent the night in the city this weekend. We did dinner, the movies, the Chinese Dinosaurs and other stuff. Nina and Sandy has saunas and spas and swam. Nina especially loved the hotel breakfast. It was a lovely, lovely, night and it was our first holiday since the accident. I'm glad we all had so much fun, though I have to say we got really tired.

Another few weeks of wearing a collar feels interminable, but it will go. The doctor looked at my elbow this morning and gave me some more exercises to do. I'll need an x-ray after my shoulder surgery (May), but there is no point risking it now since they can't do anything about it till after May.

I try not to think about very much at all and not to feel either. Neither do me any good... life is much better when I ignore all of that stuff. Maybe afterwards, it will be OK to feel about things.

Getting back to the newspaper article and what people say, life after the crash sucks in many ways. I'll scream if I have to wait another 2 hours for someone or listen to another taxi driver's radio and opinion or plan a simple shopping trip like it a major excursion. And then I'll do all these things again and again and won't complain. But I don't risk my house, car or spouse. I don't get the stuff people talk about. To lose a spouse, surely things have to be bad in the first place? How can you lose a house or car with income insurance? Losing a job I get, employers do whatever they like, law or no law. The rest is unfathomable to me. Maybe I won't lose my family because we were all injured so we understand each other without words. Maybe people not in a smash can't empathise with those in one.... It puzzles me when I think about it